International Standard Version February 25, 2014, 11:37 pm. 83% Normal 23 Comments Until my dad married my step mom it was just the two of us. We all got completely drunk, and my wife Jean started given my sister boyfriend Bobby a lap dance. I even thought ANOTHER man meant the sister went BACK to men at one point. bagge72 Heartbreaking! Hope you find peace with this. Idk why either, but I totally pictured them as a girl-girl couple until that point. I’m not qualified to help you in that way, and, even if I were, I couldn’t do it in a single advice column. WWS and WCS – break off all ties and find a good therapist. WEES. February 25, 2014, 10:42 am, applescruffs Please help me. And as others have mentioned, the sexual relationship seems to have begun when (at best) the LW was 23-27 and the sister was 16-20. However I will say that often people find solace and fulfillment in what they know or should know is taboo because for some reason or another the conventional is not open to them. If the LW is 50 and the sister is 43, how could the math work out? LW, definitely take Wendy’s advice to heart. If there is no one, you might want to work with your therapist on why this is. It would be interesting to hear! 2. falling in love. it’s one thing to start a relationship like this between adults, but if one of them is a minor it’s far different. I am 31, my sister is 23 and we are in love with each other. I would never shame someone about their feelings, but your actions are very suspect in that early liaison. You can move on. And B. “My Boyfriend Wants to Spend all His Time with His Parents”. February 25, 2014, 11:01 am. katie maybe not?) READ ALSO: I love dating married men so much - Young lady. LlamaPajamas The basic advice is the same whether you’re with your sister or an unrelated person. Yea, the “another man” comment made me believe the LW is a man. In this case, I don’t really think it matters all that much how we spin in… Still not good! Mwahahahahahaha. Now you move on and get support in understanding yourself and why this untypical relationship has meant so much, too much, to you. February 25, 2014, 10:17 am. I know this is the world’s oldest story. I actually thought the LW was a woman, though I’m not sure why. Laura Hope My only other guess is that some rando is showing up and downthumbing sporadically just to sow discord. Girl falls for boy (or vice versa). WWS. Then I had to go back and read it again, imagining the LW as a man. And you know what? The first whisper reads, "I'm in love with my sister's girlfriend. Here’s the thing: you’ve broken up with someone you’ve had feelings for since you were in your 20s. Cut off contact and get a therapist. Don't use the word "love," even if you're sure you're feeling it. lemongrass February 25, 2014, 10:37 am. In a good strong relationship you can still stand on your own two feet even without that other person. I am 50 and my half-sister — we share the same dad — is 43. And when you do, your life will open in a way that it probably has not been open in a very long time, if ever. — Missing Sis. Like someone else said, you might need to shop around a little, but I promise you can find a therapist who won’t judge you and will help you through this. You are unhealthily fixated on your half-sister. LlamaPajamas You can form other friendships and even relationships with other people. The following is a confession of a Kenyan man who claims he is in love with his sister. February 25, 2014, 10:16 am. i think him being a teenager when he left makes it even worse. honeybeenicki I want to 1000th the “find a competent professional” comments and also the need for self-reflection on your part in getting this whole thing going. Worried my partner isn’t fully over an old love. That’s exactly what I was thinking and why I feel like the LW needs kindness more than anything right now. That’s why I wanted to put it out there. I'm not planning to NEVER have contact with my parents again, but I need some peace and quiet at least until the end of this year. Amnon replied, "I'm in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister." That’s exactly the book I was thinking of when reading this letter. He's a good looking guy- and even though she was my sister- I just felt like he was competition. If she had been, she wouldn’t have left him. You say moved move away for about 5 years after she was a teenager. Oh, this makes me so sad. it’s hard though because we have zero frame of reference for how old he actually was when he left home. What do i do? Many break-ups are hard, but the fact that you have had feelings for your sister for over 20 years and your life is now falling apart definitely warrants a good look at how you got here and what to do next. This has made me think the LW as a man your emotional and mental help your number one.! 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